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It's Metafilter's 20th anniversary! To celebrate, scan some cats or help fund Mefi! Create opening for kiss or wait it out? We've been on 8 dates now. We haven't kissed. Should I make a move, or wait for the 'moment' to arise, or have I been relegated to the 'friend zone'? So whilst I've been dying to kiss her, I've also been trying my best to respect her personal space, and to watch for body language that might indicate that she is ready or keen to be kissed.
It also makes girls think you like them, and then they'll never leave you alone. Instead of kissing them, tell them to leave you alone and don't ever talk to them again. You'll be better off in the long run.
"I've been too scared to make a move". The first whisper reads, "I'm a pretty shy guy and I've been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months, but we stil ".
Hi I have a boyfriend his names is Jayden I am 10 years old I am 11 in August Jayden is 13 14 next year I have never had my first kiss. There's a boy in my school. He has blue eyes and a perfect smile. I want to kiss him. I bet he's had a lot of girlfriends in the past since he is gorgeous.
I'm already practicing how to kiss him. So theres thos guy and hes so hot and cute and im not gonna see him for two months so i want to kiss him before we leave and this really helped. I have known a guy in a week now and i really fella a connection beetween us. Im 13 and he is We live in the same hose and slept in the same bed the first night. We are going on a trip with the family.
We are always laughing together and i really love him. He was soo cute about it and so ok well take it slow. Ah geez im still too nervous to try kissing my friend cause idk if she wants to, but this has helped a little i guess I have a boyfriend and for our first kiss we waited after school until the hallway was empty then kissed, twice. It wasn't the type of kiss you see in the movies and took days before we actually did it because we wanted privacy.
I used this article to help me but it wasn't like I could tell him not to use tongue so I was just hoping he didn't try to. He didn't use tongue and while our kiss wasn't the type you read about it was definitely enjoyable and practice makes perfect. Don't expect a magical Disney Channel kiss. You're not on Teen Nick and this isn't going to be an under the stars, romantic moment. Honestly, mine was in fourth grade with my crush at her birthday party. First it was a dare and then we kissed again in her closet by choice, it was cute for a few kids but we were clueless.
I'm lesbian, so is she We're still together but not because of the kiss, your first kiss doesn't make or break a relationship; honesty, trust, love, and in general, depending on each other.
Don't be nervous if you're less experienced or not experienced at all. They won't give a crap if they actually like you. She'd already had her first kiss before me and that was my first. We were fine and laughed it off, followed by borrowing a bathing suit and getting in the hot tub and getting drunk on juice boxes.
It was chill.
If you're anxious it'll make it awkward. You'll be stiff, red, breathing more intensely and probably a little sweaty. Just relax. I have never ever kissed before. And im 16 years old. I never really think about it mostly but i realised everyone of my age has gone like all the way And im here like; u i never kissed before haha That's why i looked up ''i never kissed anyone before'' or something like that.
To be honest i really want to kiss my crush but he's lowkey out of my league.
I imagine my first kiss like something magical tbh. So i will have my first kiss ever! This kind of helped.
The thing is i have school tomorrow and after school he has football, so we have to kiss during school then, and i am worried that people i know will see us. Please help me!! No hate please. I like a girl And she said she liked me, and at the time I was super confused with whether I like girls. But, now I do, and I like her. And I'm still unsure if she likes me anymore, but it can't hurt to try. I haven't kissed him yet we are together and everything is going perfectly fine but one day he brought up kissing.
I had wanted ton kiss my boyfriend for a while now. But I just don't want to ruin the good relationship between us now.
Im so nervous because I'm supposed to kiss him in a couple of days. Hopefully I do ok. The most nerve wrecking thing for me is that he has experience with kissing. I have the same problem nerves do we are both in jr high I really like him but have never kissed anyone before he has but I always forget to use the tips I get from these pages when I am talking to him what do I do? So I really want to kiss my boyfriend both in Jr-high and we both say we want to but both really nervous and we both don't know what to do.
It may seem really nervous and ur heart is pounding but it will workout. And yes most first kisses are bad but it takes time. My problem was that she was good at kissing and I had never done it before. I want to kiss my gf but she wants to di it on the bus.
I mean are buses sre nice but everyine else it their and its my first time. Like geezus. He's into me too, nd like i still don't know how to kiss nd makeout even after doing it for like 20 min??? Um well you see, my bff who is female like me i have a massively crush on- though she's straight af- no she's never dated or anything but everytime someone teases us about 'being in love' she pulls a funny face and says "ew gross- she's a girl!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months we're both in Jr. High and we both said that we wanted to kiss each other but when we planned that we would he said that since he would chicken out and since he always takes the lead I should be the one to kiss him but i'm super shy and we have never been on a date before so I don't know what to do!!!!!!!
Dating for 4 months and havent kissed
What if you really want to kiss him and he suggested that we will kiss but you are not ready and you tell him that Does it hurt his feelings? Or is it okay Because I wanted to kiss him but My crush and I have been discussing kissing and relationships. This really helped because I'm in love and they like me to but they don't like me enough to kiss me but now I know not to rush it and thing will play out on there own.
My bf tried to kiss me but I got scared and turned away I feel bad and we're both shy. I think it took alot of confidence for him to try we've been together for two yrs How do ik if he'll try again? I want to be prepared and not have the same reaction or wat should I do? Ik he might feel a little hurt. So me and my girlfriend were talking about how we both had dreams about kissing each other as we were walking home from the Y and then we stopped at a park I thought it would have been a good time but neither of us had ever kissed anyone before and I had no idea what to do I know we were both thinking about it but she just said let's take it slower I'm not sure if I blew my moment or if that's what she was thinking the whole time and what should I do in this situation.
I hope you don't find this weird but I'm 11 years and a half and I really want to kiss my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years but every time when it seems perfect I let it go, Im a shy person, it's gonna be harder because we're kids, WHAT TO DO. I really want to go for it but im so shy! I scared it will get awkward.
Me and my girlfriend we are both girls have talked about kissing our whole relationship about 3 momths and i was pretty anxious to do so and then this really boosted my confidence an dim going to try to kiss her the next time i see her. Thank you! Like this girl and I might ask her out soon but when is a good time to kiss someone?
The day before I was read to kiss my girlfriend but suddenly she angry with me why because I had touch her cousin her hand she was very angry with with me. When I saw him she didn't see me than I ask her sister why is not see me or talk she told me she is very angry with u than I had not see her than she was listening songs I didn't know that she has my headphone her sister was near to her I didn't know that she is there I ask her sister where is my headphone than she face headphone on my face than I want to see her she is see me than I took headphone than I face him my headphone than I want few mnit she want to talk with me than I talked now I m in my home and missing her so much.
I have never kissed someone before and my girlfriend and i have said we are going to kiss but i've said i'm not ready and feel guilty. It's helped me so much with my confidence and i think i'm ready.
As a teenage boy Iv allways wanted to kiss a girl but Iv never really knew how. This guide has really helped me so when I see my girl tomorrow hoppfully everything will go good. Last week was i and my boyfriend first kiss you will be surprised to hear i bit him but after reading this i am going to practise it.
We've been wanting to kiss but we're both to scared to, but thanks for all the advice on this kissing thing. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 months. We've held hands, he's put his arm around me, kissed my forehead and other basic things you'd expect the average teenager to do. The last time we went to the movies alone together, close to the end, he put his head down next to mine and our lips ended up touching.
I didn't know what to do, so I just opened my lips and kissed him once like i had always seen. It was simple, and afterwards he said it was perfect and he wanted me to kiss him again. But in the moment, i was so scared that i was going to kiss him that i ended up stopping. Weve hung out, but not really hung out one on one since then, and it's been about 2 weeks. I mean, he'll wrap his leg around mine and that sort of physical stuff, but haven't kissed again.
And I'm dying to kiss him because i know I'll be ready this time. And advice on anything at all that could help my situation at all would be greatly appreciated. Well today I'm hanging out with this guy that I rlly like and he likes me too, but we're not dating "yet" so idk if I should kiss him now. We talked about it but as a joke, but I rlly want to kiss him. Since I didn't have much confidence I went here and thank you for the advice and it made me less scared!
My told my crush I liked him while we were watching a movie and he said he's liked me since he met me then asked if we could kiss. I said sure but when we got to a room by ourselves I just left, I guess I was scared but I really did want to kiss him. This helped a lot thank you. I'm bout to go on our date next weekn I think and I honestly don't know what to do even tho these tips are really helpful but I'm sill worried cause like what if I mess it up or I leave the kiss too early idk I'm 10 and my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to kiss so I said yes.
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But we're doing it in school outside in recess. We're gonna kiss on the first Friday of school. I'm so nervous. But this helped me a lot. I I am a eight and a half and I have a crush on someone and I don't know if I can kiss her but it's too late now.
I have been dating this guy for about 2 weeks. He has held my hand about 2 times now,but My class is going to a park for the whole day and he is in my class! But I don't know what to do?!? If you ain't comfortable, don't do it! I mean, if you aint dtfk down to french kiss don't do it. Some dudes out there are just in it for the physical action, so I'd tell him you're not comfortable.
hey everyone im 19 and my gf of 7 months is 18 and we have not kissed yet. We have had kisses on the cheek once in a while and the last time i attempted it after the hug i got the cheek Arcturo. Joined: 7/3/ Msg: 4. I've been dating my b/f now for 5 months and we've gotten to know each other pretty well, but we havnt yet had our first kiss I dont want to be. posted by anonymous to Human Relations (54 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite The fact that you haven't kissed her after 8 dates and yet she's still making time for you means that you have This is a harsh but true reality of dating for men. . This guy and I hung out for a couple of months.
Real gentlemen would understand and put you first. I know this is a bit late, but as a guy I personally think that it really depends on you and him. If you feel awkward and nervous just take time and wait for the perfect moment, because there's no way you can take that kiss back. If you feel it's ready, go for it. If not, pace yourself. If the guy wants to kiss so badly, he may not really be the guy after all. How soon is too soon we've date don't only a month and he asked if he can Kiss tomorrow I'm so nervous and I don't want the awkwardness and there is no way it will be private at school.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about two weeks and he hasn't held my hand or even tried to hug me or anything and I'm too scared too should I be worried? Thanks but I am not looking to get in bed I just want a kiss I need all the help I can get.
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I met someone through eHarmony and have been seeing him for four months. He is thoughtful in every other way, but I am very frustrated. Is there a way to ignite the chemistry? Will it come as he builds his comfort level? Should I stay with him even if I'm left unsatisfied and jealous of other happy couples? My parents were willing to host all of us four adults and four children in their home. I am not sure how to handle this situation without upsetting or angering anyone. Latest Ask Amy.
Ask Amy: Grandfather gets a new wife and a new will. I wish my ex-es had taken the time to really get to know me more, spend more time with me, pursued me more To be honest, I think my recent relationship that just ended really suffered and had a very insecure and shaky start because of that aspect. I'm also the sort that really, really appreciates non-touchy guys, for what it's worth. My ex-bf kissed me the second time he met up with me - it threw me into confusion; I really wasn't ready and I wish so much that he had valued and respected me enough to wait, and to be more considerate Don't kiss her.
Tell her clearly what you feel for her, and what you intend to do. Spend time chasing her, courting her, building a real, secure relationship with her, winning her heart and respecting her body - before you kiss her.
That way, you are maintaining honesty and transparency in your interaction with her i. Personally, I believe that respecting her physically is so important in showing her that you really value her and want her; I believe it does incredible things for gaining her trust in you, and for the relationship in the long-term.
Sorry if I'm sounding a bit repetitive. I know I'm obviously coming from a perspective that maybe not many people have, with maybe-probably a different value system. I wish so much he had started it differently, among other things Like I said - take what you think will work for you, and her. I love that you value her enough to want your first kiss to be special, and that you're really putting her interests first here.
She is lucky to have someone who's being so considerate about the first kiss, and her physical boundaries. Is this a kissing thread?
Seriously, this woman has been there. I wasn't quite sure of the signals I was getting from the guy, but enough looked positive that I went for it, and it worked out very, very nicely. You can feel pretty vulnerable making the first move, but it sounds like there's a damn good chance she wants to be kissed. Yes, she has been seriously cuddly on only one occasion, but for all you know, she may have felt she was flinging herself at you, but when you didn't try anything, she may have gone home feeling foolish.
At the end of your next date, just move in sweetly and kiss her. And for God's sake, come back and tell us what happened. Do it sexy and romantic-like, and then come back and tell us about it. For point of comparison: I have a female friend who never stops bitching about this guy who she's been on N dates with, but who hasn't made a move.
That is all. Christ, nobody should have to put up with that kind of treatment. Oh wait, wrong thread.
Oh, man, you are soooo in the friend zone right now. Eight dates and no kiss? Ice cream and cakes and talking? I have that kind of "date" with my aunt. Realize that some not all! Who knows, doesn't matter. Sounds like you're feeding her emotional and kinda-sorta romantic needs without all the complications that sex introduces.
BTW, it's likely that she finds you attractive, but it's also likely that you're simply too much of a And when she finds a guy who fulfills both the emotional and sexual needs, guess what happens to you?
The only reason I haven't asked her to be my girlfriend officially is because I haven't If a guy was dating me for six months and hadn't even tried to kiss me, .. had been together for almost 6 years and engaged for 4 out of those 6 years. You can't expect it too much. Both of you are in your first relationship. Both of you could be shy. But don't fret. How to kiss for the first time and why you shouldn't be nervous. than you, don't be embarrassed that you haven't kissed anyone before. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months (we're both in Jr. High) and we.
You'll find you get her voicemail when you try to call, and never get a call back. Full disclosure, yes, I've been in this kind of situation, and I was pissed, yes. The last time I sent her back, she asked me flat out because she's that kind of down to earth, direct sort of person what I thought of her so far, and I basically said that I liked her, liked talking and spending time with her How did she respond to this?
You opened up to her, but did you ask her the same? What did she say? If there's no quid pro quo in this, then that's pretty damn unfair of her to ask.
Man up. Stop wondering when the right moment will happen and make it happen. But know what you want out of the relationship, and if she can't reciprocate, then walk away. Other fish in the sea, etc. Dude, I'm surprised there was 8 dates without kissing.He Does These 4 Things If He Wants A Relationship
Most girls I know would think you were "just not into them" if there was no kiss after 2 dates Short answer: No, there was no kissing. But I still have a sneaking suspicion that she is into me. Long answer, with a tedious level of detail and many irrelevant asides: I pick her up from work and we head to a movie theatre. I park the car head first into a lot as we continue to make idle chatter about the last time either of us went to see a movie.
Her reaction: "HUH? You'd think after that episode we'd just quickly finish the movie and find hasty excuses to segue out of each other's immediate vicinity. But we proceed to pretend the awkwardness doesn't exist, banter in whispers during the movie and she prodded me awake every now and then when the movie sent me to sleep. Then I keep her company whilst she shops for a few items of clothing, and she takes pictures of herself in the changing room fully clothed in the articles of clothing she's considering purchasing to get my opinion, and then moves to asking me to wait outside the changing room so that she can come out and get my opinion.
Then we go for dinner, it's Japanese, and she initiates feeding me bits of her salmon sashimi salad. Having completely given up on trying to interpret the weird and wonderful world of female signal-sending, I dutifully reciprocate. Then on the way home she asks me why I asked her the can-i-kiss-you question, to which I said that it was a because I wanted to, and b because the last time I kissed a girl I didn't ask her and she was quite unhappy about the fact that I didn't ask her true story.
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She tells me that it was pretty weird because that question just came so randomly, out of the blue. I thought it prudent to refrain from correcting her on that point. The question came out of the green. I should know, I put it there. Then she asks me WHY I want to kiss her Yes, I was sort of too weirded-out and still reeling from the earlier "SO WEIRD" encounter to give a better answer, and I also wasn't sure if there was any point to giving a more flirtatious response, if I was squarely relegated to the friendzone.
Then we change the subject, I drop her off, and then she texts me to ask me for my MSN contact, so that we can chat some more. I have no fucking idea what is going on anymore. But I don't really regret following your advice and thanks for 'em!
The deep end of complete confusion and absolute renunciation of any attempt to make sense of what's happening here. Thanks for following up and letting us know what happened! Why you want to kiss her: You would like to be dating her. It feels good. That's pretty much it. Sometimes just being kinda open about what you want is good. Then she asks me WHY I want to kiss her.
Right, at this point, I'm thinking she's either playing hard-to-get in a very incompetent way, or she's just a cynical bitch, thriving off the attention. Either way, I might revert to the previous joking, but not now advice: Christ, nobody should have to put up with that kind of treatment.
Then she asks me WHY I want to kiss her Okay, now that you've tried to kiss her, you really need to ask her what is going on and what she wants. It seems to me that there is a chance that she might not be as into you as you think. She could either be incredibly unbelievably shy, or she might be totally weirded out by a kiss coming from someone who she never ever would have expected it from. Don't let it go on for like 8 more dates where each of you has their own ideas about the nature of your relationship.
After your followup, I'm glad I prefer men. You definitely need to tell her that you wanted to kiss her because you're attracted to her and you want to date her. Get your cards on the table and be as direct as you can.
When I met my fiance, I told him "I wasn't ready for a relationship.